A man should know how to compliment a woman's appearance. But ask the nearest lady, and she'll tell you that when it does happen, it too often sounds like an oafish come-on. It shouldn't need to be said—but we will anyway—that focusing all the attention on her sexuality is out of line. The art of the compliment is not a free pass to get suggestive; it's an opportunity to make her feel great about herself. Here's how:
Say it right away. This particular brand of admiration is appearance-based. So as soon as you see her, tell her how lovely she is. Wait too long, and it'll seem like you're searching for something to say.
Don't use a 5-cent word. Avoid anything even remotely similar to hot, sexy, smoking, etc. Don't make her feel like a piece of meat. At worst, it's offensive; at best, it displays a glaring lack of creativity. Women are objectified enough as it is. Be the exception. And for God's sake, don't say she looks "nice." It's like telling a guy he's "cute"—the most mediocre praise.
Don't use a 50-cent word. Steer clear of words like ravishing. Beyond the term's sometimes vulgar connotation, it's also a measure of grandiloquence that's probably best reserved for your poetic efforts. Instead, opt for something simple yet charming. Beautiful, lovely, glowing, wonderful, stunning, gorgeous, and terrific are all appropriate; pick one that feels natural.
Be specific. The essence is in the details. Mention what catches your eye. Then say why you noticed it. Nicole and Jena from The Style Tribe are brilliant examples.
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